Q. I sense my marriage
is on the way out. If this manifests this year,
I’m worried about my son’s overall
life equilibrium, and whether I will succeed
in making sure he finds his way through it
all, since I believe we will all probably remain
friends. My son and daughter-in-law work with
my husband in his company.
— Mighty Worried Mom
A. I was touched by
your deep concern for your son’s well-being, first and foremost,
in relation to your potential divorce. Then
I realized, from the information you included,
that not only is he married, but he’s
39 years old this year! Since he’s
all grown up with a family of his own, and
because of the planetary dynamics of your
chart, let’s focus on you.
Although
you mention divorce almost casually, your
chart reveals intense challenges in the realm
of relationship. Last year, the planetary
pressure was turned up, as transiting Saturn
crossed the Descendant into your 7th house
of marriage and partnership: a mandate to
get real about your relationship. During
this transit, the truth of your marriage
is revealed, like it or not; latent or ignored
problems will surface and must be faced.
Saturn leaves this sector of your chart in
late June 2005.
The intensity escalated in the summer of
2002, as Saturn activated your mutable t-square
(which includes Neptune in the 9th) by conjoining
your 7th-house Moon (feelings and intuition)
and opposing your 1st-house Venus (values
and love interest). This demanded a realistic
assessment of your feelings for your spouse
and potentially indicates a withdrawal of
your affection. This process was complete
when Saturn moved into Cancer on June 3,
2003.
Meanwhile, throughout 2002,, transiting Uranus trined
your natal Moon and sextiled natal Venus, which can
lead to a re-evaluation of one’s life and the possibility
of a new love interest (or, at least, sensing the potential
for one in the future). This is augmented by the conjunction
of your progressed MC to natal Venus.
Concurrently, you reached the halfway point in the
30-year progressed lunation cycle,1 a
cycle which defines the unique structure of your life.
This is called the “progressed
Full Moon,” and it lasts for several years. This
phase of the cycle is a time of revelation and redirection — a
time when the search for meaning begins and old, outdated
forms are being shed.
Your angular Moon and its involvement in a t-square
with Neptune and Venus may explain why you are naturally
reverting to your super-mom role during this provocative
time, rather than confronting head on the enormous
challenges for personal transformation in your marriage.
The best thing that you can do for yourself and your
entire family is to firmly face these issues with authenticity
and integrity. That will help your family to stay intact,
even if your marriage ends.